Finding one’s life easy or difficult was related to happiness, but not meaning.
Feeling healthy was related to happiness, but not meaning.
Feeling good was related to happiness, not meaning.
Scarcity of money reduced happiness more than meaning.
People with more meaningful lives agreed that ‘relationships are more important than achievements.
Helping people in need was linked to meaning but not happiness.
Expecting to do a lot of deep thinking was positively related to meaningfulness, but negatively with happiness.
Happiness was related more to being a taker rather than a giver, whereas meaning was related more to being a giver than a taker.
The more people felt their activities were consistent with core themes and values of their self, the greater meaning they reported in their activities.
Seeing oneself as wise, creative, and even anxious were all linked to meaning but had no relationship (and in some cases, even showed a negative relationship) to happiness.[ii]
Happiness has more to do with having needs satisfied, getting what we want, and feeling good. Meaning is more related to developing a personal identity, expressing our self, and consciously integrating our past, present, and future experiences. We can live without significant happiness. Lack of meaning is deadly. Humans are made for meaning and purpose. That is what the Gospel is about today.
The Parables of Jesus: Matthew 13:44-52
The Gospel for this Sunday continues the parables of Jesus. Today the Lord teaches
1. The Treasure Hidden in the Field (13:44) What if you found a treasure hidden in a field, would you bury it again? Because you can’t steal or take the treasure; you have to acquire it the right way. You need to buy the land and the rights to what is on or under the land. You can’t take meaning, you can only receive it.
2. The Pearl of Great Price (13:45) A merchant in search of fine pearls is willing to give all she has for this one great pearl. What will she live on? The kingdom requires commitment; we need to be all in. Meaning is found in our commitments.
3. The Cast Net: (13:47-50) The kingdom gathers in everyone it can, but then does quality control at the end. Jesus is not a universalist. He clearly teaches the reality of heaven and hell. When Jesus talks about all the trash that is gathered in the net, he is advising us not to get anxious and worried about short term deviations in our investment portfolio; instead invest with a long-term strategy in mind. That is where meaning is found.
4. The Scribe of the Kingdom: The Christian can put together the past, the present and the future and understand the meaning and purpose of their life, just like a good financial adviser. Life is not just one dang thing after another. Life has an upward trajectory. So does the stock market over the last 100 years, according to the guy that manages my retirement fund. Jesus is teaching us about our opportunity in the present to make sense of our past and to prepare for the future. This is why the Church teaches that Christ is present in the Old Testament, but fully revealed in the New Testament. All of Creation is opening up to the revelation of the children of God. Rom. 8:19 God has not failed us, although historically, there have been some tremendous ups and downs, bull and bear market. God has an excellent track record including the Resurrection, so that must mean something in your investment strategy.
Meaning and Purpose for the Christian
St. Paul wrote the Romans about meaning and purpose in life.
Brothers and sisters: We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose. For those he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, so that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And those he predestined he also called; and those he called he also justified; and those he justified he also glorified. Rom 8:28-30
St. Paul advises that we are all predestined for union with God. It is for us to lose our courage and pull out. Social unrest and a pandemic are wearing on our soul and may threaten some.
St. Francis de Sales wrote his Introduction to the Devout Life, which is a classic of spirituality precisely because it was written for laypeople. St. Francis talks about how to practice the spirit of poverty even while living in the world.
Again, if you are impoverished much or little by unforeseen events, such as storm, flood, fire, drought, theft, or lawsuit; then is the real time to practice poverty, accepting the loss quietly, and adapting yourself patiently to your altered circumstances.
The book of Genesis tells the story of how Jacob, who we know as Israel, stole his older brother’s inheritance by masquerade. Esau was a hairy guy, so Jacob’s mom put animal hair on Jacob’s hands so that, when he went to see his blind father Isaac, he would fool him into giving away Esau’s rightful inheritance to himself. Not morally respectable but sic transit mundi. St. Francis compares Jacob’s fake hair with detachment from things in time of pandemic:
Esau and Jacob both came to their father with hairy hands, but the hair on Jacob’s hands did not grow from his skin, and could be torn off without pain; while that on Esau’s hands being the natural growth of his skin, he would have cried out and resisted if anyone had torn it off.
St. Francis then compares the story of the fake hair on Jacob’s hands to the illusion of our possessions in this life. in Genesis.
So, if our possessions are very close to our heart, and storm or thief tear them away, we shall break forth in impatient murmurs and lamentations. But if we only cleave to them with that solicitude which God wills us to have, and not with our whole heart, we shall see them rent away without losing our sense of calmness. This is just the difference between the clothing of men and beasts; the beast’s clothing grows on its flesh, and man’s is only laid on so that it may be laid aside at will. [iii]
We need stuff in this life to survive, but stuff is not the meaning of our life. We some basic stuff to be happy, but how we relate to our possessions is what creates meaning in our life. In short, St. Francis advises in a down market, buy. The Saint Maker is always bullish on the life of grace.
Mr. Freidheim’s personal story about success, failure and meaning in his life is worth pondering. The social research on happiness and how we find meaning in life illuminates how we disciples receive the Gospel. Jesus is calling us, laity and clergy, single or married, to seek first the kingdom of heaven. Like a treasure hidden in a field, you can’t take meaning and happiness, but you can possess them if you buy the field first. Life, the source of happiness and meaning, is like the pearl of great price, and is your single most important investment. Don’t get discouraged by the mixed investment results in the short term. We are only in the middle of the story, our investment is not fully mature. Remember, as St. Francis advises, in chaos there is profit. Discern wisely, like a Christian scribe, what is important about the past, what is useful for action in the present while preparing for the future. That is where we find the meaning of all of this.
[ii] The Differences between Happiness and Meaning in Life “There can be substantial trade-offs between seeking happiness and seeking meaning in life,” By Scott Barry Kaufman, January 30, 2016, Scientific American Online
[iii] CHAPTER XV. How to exercise real Poverty, although actually Rich. St. Francis de Sales, Want to read more from Introduction to the Devout Life? Click here for a downloadable version.